I’m going to cut right to the chase with this one.
In June 2024, the relationship I was in ended. There were no hard feelings; it was a case of location and a deep realisation that there was no way this relationship was going to work at this stage of our lives due to various reasons. We parted ways with a lot of mutual love and respect and well wishes to each other for whatever would unfold.
And then, two weeks later, the anger kicked in for me, and it came from nowhere, taking me by surprise.
I started running through how early on in the relationship, when I had called things off, how he had ‘won’ me back, and we’d got back together. Out of respect, I’m not going to list the various things that happened that made me feel disrespected, but out of nowhere, the rose-tinted glasses were off, and the full flood of anger and frustration came flooding in.
Luckily, I’m older and wiser, and I knew the best thing to do at this time was to ride it out, allowing myself to feel it. In truth, this anger lingered for a few weeks until finally….
I was able to remember that everything is just a reflection of me. And the anger I felt towards him was anger towards myself for not trusting my intuition early on and staying together after a couple of months, when I could already see we weren’t going to be a good match long-term.
I have no regrets from this relationship because there were actually some wonderful times and a lot of laughter and fun, but deep down I knew very early on that this was not going to be a relationship that lasted.
Here’s what I learned from that relationship. To trust my intuition early on and hold my power in my emotions and feelings and gut instinct, no matter what anyone says.
This was also the beginning of my learning about how everything and everyone is a reflection of me and is placed in my path for my evolution. This applies to you, too.
Every trigger that someone brings up in your life is a gift.
If you are angry with someone, take a moment to examine where you are judging, frustrated, or angry with yourself for your actions or inactions at the time. The truth is, as one of my great teachers says, it couldn’t have happened any other way because it didn’t.
The truth is, I wasn’t angry at my ex; I was angry at me. And the moment I chose to accept that part of me that ignored what my body was telling me early on was the moment that peace came over me, and I was able to let go.
If you’re struggling to release or understand this anger, please reach out. I have the warp speed tools to help you clear it.
With Love,
Em x
