Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong people? When is the right one going to finally show up?”
I want to invite you to pause with me here. Because what if every single person who has walked into your life has actually been the right one for where you were at in your evolution?
I know that can feel hard to hear, especially if you’re replaying heartbreaks or remembering those nights lying awake wondering what’s wrong with you. But each relationship, no matter how messy or magical, is a mirror showing you what you most need to see in yourself.
And i can speak to this personally. Some of the toughest experiences in my life have been in intimate relationships and the aftermath of piecing myself together.
These ‘right’ reflect back your patterns, your beliefs, your wounds, and also your beauty and your power.
The partner who didn’t choose you reflected your fear of rejection.
The one who was inconsistent revealed the part of you that hadn’t yet chosen yourself.
The one you gave everything to and lost yourself in highlighted the ways you were still outsourcing love instead of building it inside.
None of this means you have failed. It means you have been evolving.
Love isn’t out there waiting for you to find it. Love is already inside you, waiting for you to remember. And when you start living from that place, when you fall in love with your own life and come home to yourself, everything shifts.
The people you attract shift too. You stop calling in mirrors of your doubt and start attracting mirrors of your worth. You draw in relationships that feel nourishing instead of draining, expansive instead of contracting, clear instead of confusing.
So the question isn’t “When will I attract the right one?” The real invitation is “Am I willing to become the right one for myself first?”
Because the greatest relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself. And from there every connection that comes into your life rises to meet you at that higher frequency.
You are not broken. You are not behind. You are simply in the exact place you need to be for the next chapter of your evolution.
And maybe, just maybe, the right one you have been searching for has been you all along.
With love,
Em x
I want to invite you to pause with me here. Because what if every single person who has walked into your life has actually been the right one for where you were at in your evolution?
I know that can feel hard to hear, especially if you’re replaying heartbreaks or remembering those nights lying awake wondering what’s wrong with you. But each relationship, no matter how messy or magical, is a mirror showing you what you most need to see in yourself.
And i can speak to this personally. Some of the toughest experiences in my life have been in intimate relationships and the aftermath of piecing myself together.
These ‘right’ reflect back your patterns, your beliefs, your wounds, and also your beauty and your power.
The partner who didn’t choose you reflected your fear of rejection.
The one who was inconsistent revealed the part of you that hadn’t yet chosen yourself.
The one you gave everything to and lost yourself in highlighted the ways you were still outsourcing love instead of building it inside.
None of this means you have failed. It means you have been evolving.
Love isn’t out there waiting for you to find it. Love is already inside you, waiting for you to remember. And when you start living from that place, when you fall in love with your own life and come home to yourself, everything shifts.
The people you attract shift too. You stop calling in mirrors of your doubt and start attracting mirrors of your worth. You draw in relationships that feel nourishing instead of draining, expansive instead of contracting, clear instead of confusing.
So the question isn’t “When will I attract the right one?” The real invitation is “Am I willing to become the right one for myself first?”
Because the greatest relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself. And from there every connection that comes into your life rises to meet you at that higher frequency.
You are not broken. You are not behind. You are simply in the exact place you need to be for the next chapter of your evolution.
And maybe, just maybe, the right one you have been searching for has been you all along.
With love,
Em x
