Friendships are some of the most powerful teachers we will ever have. They come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime, and when we forget this, we can cling to relationships long after they’ve shifted form.
A close friend of mine has been walking through this lesson recently. She’s been struggling to let a friendship go, holding onto the story of what it used to be. To her, it felt like a rejection, like she was being left behind. But what was really happening was something deeper.
This friendship, in the form it once was, had actually placed the other person on a pedestal. In her eyes, this friend was always one step ahead, always a little bit brighter, always better somehow. And in that dynamic, she unconsciously shrank herself.
When the friendship changed, it cracked something open. The ending became a trigger that revealed where she had felt inadequate, less than, and unworthy of being on the same level. But here’s the powerful part, none of that was true.
The truth is, she had been rejecting herself all along by placing the other person so high above her. She wasn’t seeing her own brilliance because she was too busy magnifying someone else’s.
Now she’s on a journey to love the part of herself that once felt rejected. She’s realising that the pedestal never belonged in the first place. Friendships aren’t meant to be hierarchies. They are meant to be mirrors, reflections, companions for a reason, a season, or if we’re lucky, a lifetime.
When a friendship shifts or ends, it doesn’t mean you’ve lost. It means you’re being invited to see yourself more clearly. To take back the power you once gave away. To stop outsourcing your worth and begin loving yourself in the places you once abandoned.
So if you’re grieving a friendship right now, hold this in your heart. Every ending is also a beginning. Every goodbye is an invitation to come home to yourself. And every friendship whether for a reason, a season, or a lifetime — is always guiding you back to the love that has been inside you all along.
With love,
Em x
A close friend of mine has been walking through this lesson recently. She’s been struggling to let a friendship go, holding onto the story of what it used to be. To her, it felt like a rejection, like she was being left behind. But what was really happening was something deeper.
This friendship, in the form it once was, had actually placed the other person on a pedestal. In her eyes, this friend was always one step ahead, always a little bit brighter, always better somehow. And in that dynamic, she unconsciously shrank herself.
When the friendship changed, it cracked something open. The ending became a trigger that revealed where she had felt inadequate, less than, and unworthy of being on the same level. But here’s the powerful part, none of that was true.
The truth is, she had been rejecting herself all along by placing the other person so high above her. She wasn’t seeing her own brilliance because she was too busy magnifying someone else’s.
Now she’s on a journey to love the part of herself that once felt rejected. She’s realising that the pedestal never belonged in the first place. Friendships aren’t meant to be hierarchies. They are meant to be mirrors, reflections, companions for a reason, a season, or if we’re lucky, a lifetime.
When a friendship shifts or ends, it doesn’t mean you’ve lost. It means you’re being invited to see yourself more clearly. To take back the power you once gave away. To stop outsourcing your worth and begin loving yourself in the places you once abandoned.
So if you’re grieving a friendship right now, hold this in your heart. Every ending is also a beginning. Every goodbye is an invitation to come home to yourself. And every friendship whether for a reason, a season, or a lifetime — is always guiding you back to the love that has been inside you all along.
With love,
Em x
