Hey there, beautiful soul!
This topic that has been a game-changer in my life: connecting to my body. This is a crucial piece of the puzzle when it comes to my own self-worth journey.
Connecting to your body might feel like uncharted territory. I get it; I was once there too. you might not even realise you are disconnected to your body and your emotions.
Here’s what it can feel like when you are disconnected from your body:
-You don’t really understand why other people cry so easily or show emotion
-You can find it hard to create deeper connections
-You shy away from being vulnerable or asking out for help and letting people know when you need them
-Even when you feel a strong emotion such as anger, sadness, loneliness you try and brush it off an move into a more positive feeling state
-You hibernate or go into reclusive mode when you’re going through a hard emotional time.
For those of us battling lower self worth, this disconnection from our emotions and the feeling swe have in our bodies often leads to heightened anxiety and overthinking.
It’s highly likely that somewhere in our life from childhood to adulthood our emotions were hushed, and we were handed a script that said, “boys don’t cry” or “girls, stop being so over the top and emotional.” Maybe we were told to “pull yourself together” and “stop being so silly”. These comments on repeat made us shut down these emotions when they arose in the future and so the disconnect began.
The result? We became perpetual over-thinkers, constantly analysing how to keep others happy, or afraid of deeper connections, afraid of feeling what was going on within us, shutting down emotions when we felt them, using external substances to block out emotions such as alcohol, drugs, gambling, porn, shopping, taking risks.
There is good news – there’s a way out of this cycle. The key is to reconnect with your body. When you’re in your head, you’re miles away from your body’s innate wisdom. And in this disconnected state, we often find ourselves making decisions that go against our gut feeling, against our intuition.
Let me paint a scenario. Picture yourself on a second date, excited but already placing the other person on a pedestal. Suddenly, they say something, and your gut instinct kicks in – that solar plexus region just above your belly button – sends up a red flag. It’s your body’s intuitive warning system, telling you to proceed with caution. But here’s the kicker: when you’re disconnected from your body, it’s easier for your mind, influenced by low self-worth, to dismiss these signals. You might later ponder, “Oh, maybe they were just nervous and that’s why they said that” or “maybe they didn’t mean it like that and I just interpreted it in the wrong way”. And so, the cycle of disconnection continues
Now, let’s get practical. How do we bridge this gap? How do we reconnect with our bodies and, in turn, elevate our self-worth? Here are my top three recommendations:
1. Dance Baby Dance: Every morning, after my shower, I crank up my favourite dance tunes. I let loose, moving and grooving while brushing my teeth or drying my hair. It doesn’t matter if you’re a trained dancer or not. Just find music that moves you, that makes your heart race, and let your body follow suit. Dance is a primal, tribal practice that connects us to something larger than ourselves and brings us well and truly into the present moment and into our bodies.
2. Embrace Yoga: Yoga, especially yin yoga, has been my constant companion. You don’t need to hit a studio; a 10-minute online yin class can work wonders. If you’re more inclined toward yang activities like weightlifting or running, balance it out with the slower, joint-opening movements of yin yoga. It’s a beautiful way to feel grounded and connected and brings you into deep connection with your breath and also with the tiny muscles and fibres within your body.
3. Breathe in some Breath-work: Explore breath-work techniques, and Wim Hof is a fantastic starting point. Whether through apps or live events, breath-work allows you to tap into your subconscious, releasing what’s been buried deep within. It’s an incredible tool for connecting with your body and fostering self-awareness.
Remember, the more you move, breathe, and connect with your body, the more you’ll find your self-worth blossoming. It’s like tuning in to your body’s radio station – the frequency of intuition and self-love.
Movement including breath-work allows you to feel, to release and let go of anything trapped in your body. It allows you to see you push points, how far you can go and when to rest and listen to your body.
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