Hello Beautiful Human,
I hope you’re having a great week x
Let’s dive into something we all experience at some point—low self-worth in relationships. It’s a tough one, right? When we don’t feel good enough or worthy of love, it’s easy to believe we need to change, please, or even shrink ourselves to fit someone else’s expectations…playing small used to be a specialty of mine. But the truth is, those feelings of unworthiness are often rooted in old stories we’ve told ourselves for far too long.
One quote I love by Peter Crone is, “Life will present you with the people and circumstances to show you where you are not free.” This means that when we experience low self-worth in relationships, it’s not a sign that we’re broken—it’s an invitation to heal. It’s life showing us the parts of ourselves that need love and attention. Every time we feel unworthy, we are given the opportunity to choose differently, to choose ourselves.
I used to struggle with this a lot. When I first learned about people being our mirrors I struggled to get my head around it because I thought if you have a mirror it reflects back exactly what you are. I now understand that if I was in a relationship where i was being disrespected or spoken to in a way that was disrespectful it’s because i was being disrespectful to myself and speaking to myself poorly and therefore, attracted and allowed it from others.
So how do you deal with low self-worth in relationships? Here are a few steps that have helped me and many others:
1. When someone triggers you or makes you feel worthless remember that quote by Peter Crone is, “Life will present you with the people and circumstances to show you where you are not free.”
2. Recognize the pattern: Notice when you’re basing your worth on someone else’s opinion. Often, this is a sign of an internal belief that needs shifting. i.e they didn’t comment on my social post, maybe they don’t like me when in actual fact the other person was just busy.
3. Create boundaries with love: Healthy boundaries protect your energy. When you set boundaries, you teach others how to treat you and remind yourself that you deserve love and respect. i.e if someone speaks to you disrespectfully you can speak to them in private and let them know that how they spoke to you is now how you speak to yourself and you’d appreciate in future that they don’t do that again. If they cross the line in the future then you can make the decision about how much time or energy you give them going forward.
Remember, relationships are here to reflect back to us where we need to grow. When you can see your low self-worth as a call to go inward and cultivate self-love, you’ll begin to free yourself from the chains of insecurity.
I Love You,
Em
I hope you’re having a great week x
Let’s dive into something we all experience at some point—low self-worth in relationships. It’s a tough one, right? When we don’t feel good enough or worthy of love, it’s easy to believe we need to change, please, or even shrink ourselves to fit someone else’s expectations…playing small used to be a specialty of mine. But the truth is, those feelings of unworthiness are often rooted in old stories we’ve told ourselves for far too long.
One quote I love by Peter Crone is, “Life will present you with the people and circumstances to show you where you are not free.” This means that when we experience low self-worth in relationships, it’s not a sign that we’re broken—it’s an invitation to heal. It’s life showing us the parts of ourselves that need love and attention. Every time we feel unworthy, we are given the opportunity to choose differently, to choose ourselves.
I used to struggle with this a lot. When I first learned about people being our mirrors I struggled to get my head around it because I thought if you have a mirror it reflects back exactly what you are. I now understand that if I was in a relationship where i was being disrespected or spoken to in a way that was disrespectful it’s because i was being disrespectful to myself and speaking to myself poorly and therefore, attracted and allowed it from others.
So how do you deal with low self-worth in relationships? Here are a few steps that have helped me and many others:
1. When someone triggers you or makes you feel worthless remember that quote by Peter Crone is, “Life will present you with the people and circumstances to show you where you are not free.”
2. Recognize the pattern: Notice when you’re basing your worth on someone else’s opinion. Often, this is a sign of an internal belief that needs shifting. i.e they didn’t comment on my social post, maybe they don’t like me when in actual fact the other person was just busy.
3. Create boundaries with love: Healthy boundaries protect your energy. When you set boundaries, you teach others how to treat you and remind yourself that you deserve love and respect. i.e if someone speaks to you disrespectfully you can speak to them in private and let them know that how they spoke to you is now how you speak to yourself and you’d appreciate in future that they don’t do that again. If they cross the line in the future then you can make the decision about how much time or energy you give them going forward.
Remember, relationships are here to reflect back to us where we need to grow. When you can see your low self-worth as a call to go inward and cultivate self-love, you’ll begin to free yourself from the chains of insecurity.
I Love You,
Em
