Dating and relationships

“Navigating Relationships: Embracing Your Worth and Taking Your Time”

14/12/2023

Hello, beautiful souls!

Today’s focus is on “Taking Your Time Getting To Know People” – be it in work, friendship, or romantic connections.

In previous blogs and on the podcast, we explored the power of instincts and intuition, that subtle feeling in your stomach that speaks volumes when you meet someone for the first time. Amidst all the green flags and charming narratives, it’s crucial to pay attention to those tiny doubts, the moments when something doesn’t quite align.

Let’s talk about the importance of not rushing into things, especially in romantic relationships. In a world where actions often speak louder than words, it’s essential to discern between genuine intentions and superficial gestures. Men, often visual beings in love, and women, drawn to meaningful words, may find themselves caught in a whirlwind of promises.

I want to share a valuable insight: taking your time doesn’t mean being suspicious or distant. It’s about allowing connections to develop organically. Consider giving yourself at least two to three months of genuine dating – engaging in fun activities, deep conversations, and meaningful experiences without necessarily diving into physical intimacy. Really getting to know someone before adding in the added layer of oxytocin ( the attachment hormone released when you have sex)

For those navigating relationships with lower self-worth, this waiting period can be a sanctuary. It provides a buffer against heightened anxiety and allows you to observe how the other person responds to your pace and boundaries. It also allows you to witness if your pace is respected by the other person or if they are ‘just after sex’.

Now, let’s touch on a sensitive topic: the masks people wear. Even when people appear to be a ‘good person’ they can be wearing a mask and be very good at hiding who they truly are. Psychopaths and narcissists may hide behind facades of charity and philanthropy, exemplified by the shocking case in the UK of Jimmy Saville ( he fooled the entire UK that he was a philanthropist who wanted to help kids…..I’ll leave you to google the rest). Taking your time allows you to see beyond the surface and witness the true colors of those around you. People can only wear those masks for so long before they start to make mistakes and get confused by their own lies, so this is why taking your time with someone is so important.

The magic formula shared with me suggests two to three months of casual dating and six months as a milestone for evaluating the potential for a long-term relationship. At the six-month mark, masks tend to slip, revealing authentic selves. It’s a moment of truth where you decide if this connection aligns with your vision for the future.

I encourage you to be the CEO of your life, setting the pace and determining what feels right for you. Be smart about who you bring into your life / your business because once they are there, they could be there to stay. If anxieties arise, communicate openly with your potential partner and observe their response. A caring, understanding reaction speaks volumes about their character.

Remember, taking your time is a form of self-love and empowerment. You’re not being needy; you’re valuing yourself enough to express your feelings and ensuring that the journey aligns with your pace.

You are the CEO of your life and that includes being smart about who gets to come in and share it. Think about those high ranking jobs where the CEO has to be involved in the interviewing process. Those positions take three to five interviews in some cases before you get the job, so factor this in before inviting anyone so openly into sharing your World.

Shine on!

With love,

Em xx

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Hi, I'm Emma Ritchie

For years, I struggled with low self-worth, self-doubt, and a deep disconnection from who I truly was. I wore the mask, played the roles, and did what I thought I should do—but inside, I felt lost. It wasn’t until I turned inward and began healing the relationship I had with myself that everything changed.

Real transformation starts when you work at the level of your energy, emotions, and mind—because only then can your behaviours shift and your outer world reflect your inner truth.

Today, my greatest passion is helping others do the same. I support people to integrate all parts of themselves—the light, the shadow, the wounds, the wisdom—and to dissolve the layers of judgement, shame, and not-enoughness that keep them small.

When you shift how you relate to yourself, everything begins to align.
You step into confidence, clarity, and calm—inside and out.
You stop waiting for permission and start creating the life you were born to live.
You call back your power.
You remember who you truly are.

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